The fight for purity in a world that pursues promiscuity is
something every Christian needs to war for. We live in a sexualised culture and
it is critical that we have a determination to keep ourselves pure before God. God
created sex to be enjoyed in a loving, covenant, marriage relationship. Sexual
activity outside of that is sin and has the potential to damage and hurt many
people. So what can we do to keep ourselves pure before God?
Pure Devotion
1 Corinthians 11:3 But
I am afraid that just as Eve was deceived by the serpent’s cunning, your minds
may somehow be led astray from your sincere and pure devotion to Christ.
Pure devotion to God can’t be over emphasised in our success
in walking in purity. Without this firmly established in a believer’s life then
the task of overcoming sexual sin and all other sin for that matter becomes
significantly more difficult. For people who struggle in this area the answer
is not necessarily to try harder. Effort on our behalf is needed but many
people who struggle with sexual temptation and sin are usually trying harder
than other people who walk in purity. The answer is more of Jesus rather than
more human effort. Build your relationship with Him by committing yourself to
His Word and in prayer. Remember, if we had the ability to overcome sin by
ourselves then Jesus would not have needed to come and live a sinless life and
die on the cross for our sins. So draw closer to Jesus in pure devotion and ask
for His help and grace to overcome and walk in purity. Jesus knows how to deal
with and defeat sin and He wants to help you as well.
Purity Stance
Ephesians 5:3 But
among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of
impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God’s holy people.
After establishing pure devotion we need to develop a purity
stance based on what God says and not the world. If we don’t have a stance or
standard that we are asking God to help us to achieve then we will fall at
every temptation. God’s standard is “not
even a hint” which mean not even a whisper of sexual immorality. So when
answering the question ‘How far can I go with someone I am not married to’ the
answer is ‘not even a hint’. 1 Timothy 5:2 tells us to treat “older
women as mothers, and younger women as sisters, with absolute purity.” It is
fair to say that most people would not go very far sexually with someone that
they are closely related to and the only time that we are to consider someone
other than a brother or a sister is in a marriage relationship.
Personal PurifierGalatians 6:7-8 Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows. Whoever sows to please their flesh, from the flesh will reap destruction; whoever sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life.
What we allow in our lives influences our thoughts and in
turn directs our actions. If we blindly watch anything on television, listen to
any music or expose ourselves to sexually explicit material then we are sowing
things into our lives that, if left unchecked, cause destruction. Monitoring
what you sow into your life is incredibly important. Get into a habit of
critiquing the things you watch, listen to and meditate on. Do they help you
follow after Jesus or do they encourage or promote sinning against Him? Sow
seeds of purity so that when sexual temptation comes you are strong to defeat
it.
Flee from Sexual
immorality
1
Corinthians 6:18 -
Flee from sexual
immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever
sins sexually, sins against
their own body.
RUN! Make a decision to flee when you find yourself in
sexually immoral situations. If you know beforehand what you will do in situations
it will become easier to get out of them. When Potiphar’s wife grabbed Joseph
by his clothes and told him to come to bed with her he immediately ran!
(Genesis 39:6-12) Don’t try and stay and reason, or try to convince yourself
it’s not that bad. Flee and get out of whatever situation it is.